Every new year, people resolve to spend more time and effort on physical training to achieve fit bodies. Physical strength is certainly a worthwhile goal. But emotional strength, though less glamorized, is equally important.

When it comes to building resilient emotions, we can use the analogy of physical training. Signing up for a fitness class may bring up feelings of anxiety. We expect to sweat, feel our muscles burn, and become fatigued. But we also know that consistent training will make our bodies stronger, more resilient, more flexible, and better able to serve us.

Life is essentially a training ground for our emotions; it provides endless challenges-- opportunities to build our emotional "muscles".

How do you design an emotional training program? First observe where you need more emotional fortitude, or capacity to endure emotional distress and discomfort. When a difficult circumstance confronts you, be realistic and specific about what you can expect, how it will challenge you, and how you usually react.

Then, focus on changing your internal narrative. Instead of defaulting to established patterns that don't serve you, imagine how your higher self would respond: "I know this will be uncomfortable, maybe even distressing, but I am strong enough to take it." Think about the tools you have at your disposal: breathing regulation, mantras, body-awareness meditation, self-calming techniques, and practicing stillness. Imagine how you will feel at the end of the experience, having successfully regulated your emotions, thoughts, and actions. Seeing your courage and emotional maturity.

Just like physical training, building emotional strength doesn't happen overnight. It takes time, consistency, self-awareness, and self-compassion. But if you stay in touch with your desire and aspiration, you will progress toward your goal. 

With sincerity and grace,
Ashley, Instructor and Marketing Liaison